Even the angels don’t get this; this gift is for us.
Find a man and a woman, wrap them in a vow, tank them up with passion, and set them loose on the world.
Marriage, this sacrament of divine opportunity, this holy favour, is the artful design through which God propels forth life, abundance, creativity and blessing into a world hungry for a taste of real love.
Our marriages are not just cardboard opportunities to get two-for-one rent, have a reliable movie buddy on Friday nights, or rally a convenient person to help with the dishes, though those are some perks that come with the territory. One of the reasons marriage exists is to magnify the Kingdom of God on this earth. And the Kingdom of God sparks with healing life, infinite creative potential and an ever-gushing, never-quitting, generous, every-moment kind-of love. The beauty, wholeness, sweetness and goodness of God’s Kingdom cannot be overstated; it absolutely bursts with passion, promise and favour.
Yet, if we allow marriage to fall into the doldrums of uninspired routine, superficial pleasure seeking, or convenience-oriented life together, we run the risk of missing the vast potential of this magnificent union.
Marriage is a gift from God.
Kindling two hearts together over years and decades is a great mystery of deep and committed grace.
It’s relatively easy to live annoyed, frustrated, merely-tolerant and selfish. Alternatively, it is holy work to live expansively towards another person; to surrender, sacrifice, uplift and encourage, even in the face of everyday human-ness, dirty socks, and bed-heads.
Marriage is a spark that has the potential to set the world on fire. Two knit hearts, committed to blessing the world from a posture of partnership and grace, create ripple effects that are boundless.
Your lover is God’s perfect gift to you.
Within your marriage God has hidden treasures for you to mine for the rest of your life together. He has planted seeds of possibility, and drawn the etchings of dreams into the fabric of your shared life. Yet, these gifts will only be realized as you step out into the greater life God has for you, as you love each other on the journey and move beyond the petty resistance of physical distractions into the realms of faith and hope.
You get to call out the beauty, the uniqueness, the treasure in one whole other person in this life. Don’t let the opportunity slip through your fingers! Watching movies about actors’ fake romantic flings has got nothing on the ecstasy of calling out the magnificence of your soul mate.
Flat, uninspired, drained marriage relationships are not God’s plan for any of us. Marital love is not the shallow stuff of fairy tales and sappy movie endings, it is the raw reality of soul-mesh and heart-impact, realized in the grit of moment-by-moment life together. God designed marriage to set us free, to overload us with love, opportunity, and excitement with another one of His precious children.
And, as if it could get better(!)… God literally knits the seeds of us together and makes little ones out of our love. This, alone, is a miracle worthy of our reverence and awe; the fact that in the secret place – where vulnerability and passion meet – eternal souls can be established, is no small thing.
This is not tame stuff, this is radical!
Marital passion, the tender embrace of a ravishing intimacy only known with one other, is a secret gift in this life, one to be stewarded and guarded, embraced and celebrated. Yet, we are not yet perfect in the rolling out of this plan and so where we stumble, He will restore, and where we lack, He will forgive.
The enemy will keep trying to rob us of this sacred gift, but we will not be wooed by his empty, plastic promises. All that glitter reeks of a lie. Real love-romance-passion dwells at home, in a house where Legos litter the floor and dishes fill the sink. Married love sinks into the bed at night together, after a day of faithful investment, and tucks in between arms and legs, and warm, familiar skin and knows this gentle bliss is a gift from God.
Treasure your love life, it is the fertile soil of your dreams.
15 years into this gig, Ben and I have a little phrase that we whisper to each other regularly, often in the throes of little-kid chaos and epic-destructo-house messes,
“It just keeps getting better and better.”
And it does.
My friends, it’s time for our marriages to fly; let’s see what a world full of lovers really looks like!